~~ martyr!Remus, grr, argh.

[reenka]

I've only been reading S/R fic intensely for less than a week, and I already have a #1 pet peeve, ahahah. It's not at the must-strangle-someone stage yet by far, but it's... present.

What weirds me out is that there's this trend where fics keep making it that Remus is with Sirius as some sort of favor, because really, Remus knows better and Sirius is such a bastard (...and someone has to mention that at least once-- often Sirius himself). It's like, I wonder why Remus is friends with Sirius, if he really judges him so harshly-- or it really such a huge jump to respect someone enough to be their lover rather than their friend...?

It's like, even when I love a fic, I realize that the Remus cannot realistically be that above it all. Sometimes it's even felt like the whole fic, Sirius basically spent his time apologizing to Remus for who he is (with Remus forgiving him out of his innate-- well, I don't know! hard to tell), and that seems even more dysfunctional than the assholish behavior does. There seems to be a game of 'spot the bastard' going on, and The Bastard is pretty much Sirius. And it's not like with Snapefics, where the assholish behavior is part of the appeal for his partner-- no, Remus doesn't actually enjoy it. At all.

No, Remus is actually kind of... Oppressed, you see. By Sirius' assholish not-really-charming-thank-you behavior. But he tolerates it because... because.....
    See, here's where I get stuck. A lot of fics focus on Sirius boycrushing on Remus and finally realizing that, and it's all intense and everything-- and Remus wants him back, right. But it's not a question of Remus -falling- for Sirius-- or realizing he fancies him back. No, Remus holds back. Remus... basically, Remus doesn't trust Sirius with his heart.

Man. I know I've said the trust issues with this pairing interest me, but. It seems like the holding-back thing is some kind of moral judgment on Sirius, which really bugs me, for it reminds me of Harry's attitude towards Draco in fics, and dude, that's what I was trying to get away from. I mean, the main reason it bugs me so much is that there's no canon reason for it that I can see-- I mean, I can't really see evidence for Remus being the grudge-bearing type-- that's more Sirius' thing, dude.

Moreover, it seems like a nasty case of projection on the writers' part-- like, it's clear favoritism with Remus-- who apparently has little to no real offensive qualities, and is actually a long-suffering martyr. And I don't hate martyr!Harry as much 'cause well, at least that's canon. But. Remus doesn't have to be. So... wah. I thought the point of S/R was that Sirius could get Remus to loosen up-- let go of his reservations and feel. And if Remus spends the whole time basically making Sirius feel sorry about being himself (as far as Sirius is capable of)-- well-- that makes me feel like they're bad for each other. Which kind of... seems to be missing the point, no?

Comments

[yourpoison.livejournal.com]

Hehehe, well, my definition of romantic isn't necessarily other people's :> Like, I find dynamic, interesting people who're affectionate yet argumentative together the most romantic thing, probably. Not as in, shmoopily affectionate and omg-hugs-and-flowers but more... where two people really have fun together and are fun to watch, and you want them to like, keep doing what they're doing, y'know? It's not like Ideal Couple of the Year, but it doesn't matter, 'cause they -work- together and because they -need- each other and you could tell, because who else would want them, really? They just -click- like whoah and they keep having this really intense but sometimes playful and sometimes (rarely) tender sex but also they don't need to have sex to have fun & just hearing them talk is pretty entertaining because they can just play off each other so well. That's pretty romantic. That's all I want (see, my demands are REALLY LOW ahahah).

Yeah, I totally dig where you're coming from with the pathetic-asshole!Sirius and not knowing what anyone sees in -either- of them ><;;; And when you start with the everyone-wants-Remus syndrome... you know what I mean, right.... ohhhhh boy.

I'd be more benevolent if I could tell -why- Remus was a godthing, too. Like, WHAT IS SO COOL ABOUT HIM??! If I could see that, it'd be like one of those good fanon!Draco fics where he's witty & pretty & bright-- like, sure, all right, fun to read about. But I really don't know why uptight-superior-and-cold!Remus is all that hot. And yeah, okay, the cold thing really gets to me. As in, I get how it's canon, but er... isn't that something you're supposed to work around, not like, show as the Perfect State Of Remus Lupin....?? ack :>

[blacksatinrose.livejournal.com]

Like, I find dynamic, interesting people who're affectionate yet argumentative together the most romantic thing, probably.

Dude, so do I. Thus the icon reflected pairing. ;)

And you know, I wonder that, too, about what the fuck is so cool about Remus. I mean, I like Remus, honest I do, I even like that he's cold, but... I only like that he's cold because it's a flaw. I mean, being so passive-aggressive, so self-contained, that's not good! And I like that he's cold because he warms up so well with Sirius, even in canon. Because that is part of what makes them work together, what makes them special together: that Sirius's fire can melt Remus's ice, at least temporarily, and Remus's restraint can give Sirius some sense of self-control.

As it is, a lot of the fic leaves out the give and take, and yeah, that's sucky.

[yourpoison.livejournal.com]

You know, that's really kind of odd, because the fire-and-ice thing is trademark romance material-- you'd think there'd be loads of fics that work with that since it's sort of... right there, to the point of me wondering why else would these people write/read S/R. Like, it's your classic opposites-attract thing, ahahahah. Which I'm clearly very predictably always drawn to :))

See, my first non-slash-but-kinda-smarm 'pairing' (which I never quite shipped as I didn't know what slash was) was Kirk/Spock-- and I loved Spock's coldness-- because there was all that passion and fiery emotion he was suppressing. That's what makes those people so fascinating, no? Well, you'd think. It's the chance to show the things they hide-- make them lose control. 'Cause when they blow up, they blow up harder than a normal person, right. It should be spectacular, really. And with Remus-- beyond those stupid why-god-why 'wolf inside' references (which wouldn't be so bad if I didn't get the feeling the writer has no idea of what the 'wolf inside' would actually feel like or how that even relates to werewolves since by all evidence, he's not really constantly aware of another consciousness or anything)-- Remus is clearly repressing majorly and desperately holding on to sanity & composure & such. And yet it's Sirius who's the mad one -.-

Le sigh.

PS

[yourpoison.livejournal.com]

Did you see this (http://www.livejournal.com/users/yeats/90829.html)? It's rather good.
Though... yet another one down for the count for someone saying that Sirius Deserves It.

I mean. WHY IS IT IN EVERY FIC WHY WHY WHYyyyyyyyyyyy?

Re: PS

[blacksatinrose.livejournal.com]

As soon as someone says Sirius doesn't deserve Remus, the author loses me.

And I hate saying that, cos I'm very fond of the author of that one. ;)

Re: PS

[yourpoison.livejournal.com]

Hahah I'm still at the point where-- well-- at least it's just this one phrase, and the fic itself doesn't really support it...? And it's like, that sentence wasn't even -necessary-.

Honestly though, the whole not-deserving thing is just mean. And then (wouldn't you know it) everyone uses this to say, SEE S/R DOESN'T WORK, too. :(((
(my life = so hard)

Re: PS

[blacksatinrose.livejournal.com]

I'm way past that point, dude. Way. ;)

But then, I have very little tolerance for things that irk me, and very little inherent love for fanfiction, so I can pretty much be tossed out of a story by any little thing. Because I don't really have an investment in my ability to read fanfic, you know?