Man, I think there's no magic way except patience. Some people have it (and thus make good teachers to slower people) and some people don't. My Mother--who lacks patience with people who don't "get" things, especially daughters who whine that she is being unclear--claims that this is part of the horrible burden one must bear for being very intelligent.
On the other hand, at some point, that idiot will be/is/was you. So (espec in fandom) I tend towards head-shaking and fuzzy feelings of nostalgia for my own stupidities (all long past of *course*).
And I was about to be all "click away," but if you even have the personality to be "in fandom" online, you care about this stuff more than most people, and you know that whole "don't care so much about it"--you've written it up already. So, just to deal practically: 1. visit another fandom (or read a book/watch movie/dinner with friends)--a nice context-giving thing to do, or if you can't do that 2. harness this annoyance/anger for good. Use the drive to write/draw/create something fic-ish. Picking over the bones of old arguments and regurgitating meta will only get you so far... as you've found.
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Date: 2005-11-08 07:47 am (UTC)On the other hand, at some point, that idiot will be/is/was you. So (espec in fandom) I tend towards head-shaking and fuzzy feelings of nostalgia for my own stupidities (all long past of *course*).
And I was about to be all "click away," but if you even have the personality to be "in fandom" online, you care about this stuff more than most people, and you know that whole "don't care so much about it"--you've written it up already. So, just to deal practically: 1. visit another fandom (or read a book/watch movie/dinner with friends)--a nice context-giving thing to do, or if you can't do that 2. harness this annoyance/anger for good. Use the drive to write/draw/create something fic-ish. Picking over the bones of old arguments and regurgitating meta will only get you so far... as you've found.