bring on the sissies! :/

It's sort of a combination of thinking about gender (being one's gender, being transgendered, being cross-gendered, whatever) & reading 'Self-Made Man', about a woman (Norah Vincent) who spent a year cross-dressing & passing as a guy in various all-male situations & on dates with women. And then randomly I found this site called heroichomosex.org (and by 'heroic', they mean 'manly', which means 'no penetration, honey'), and there's this post on it which made me reconsider my position on character feminizing in slash. :/
    Like, okay, these people are kind of nuts-- extremists, y'know-- but still. Having this person be like 'oh, I'm in luuurve & I wanna get down on one knee and be boyfriends' and the site owner be like 'BUT THAT'S CHEESY-- I MEAN, NOT MANLY!!1'.... It just made me realize that there -is- this pressure among men to be, uh, masculine-- it's not like they naturally are that different and emotionally alien compared to women, but they're heavily acculturated the same way women are to be more passive (though we had our feminist revolution & men didn't have their emo revolution by a long shot, and aren't even that likely to anytime soon).

So, like, okay-- in stories where characters are feminized (or rather, 'sissified' and made into emo weepy/talkative/sharing basketcases fixated on their love-lives moreso than fucking, their job & sports-- whatever, you know what I mean), generally what I hate is the OOCness. The fact that this isn't that character. I mean, if this character was like that in the book/show, great. But they're not.
    On the ooooother hand-- this just struck me-- what if... okay, what if writing completely realistically from a guy's pov (given that we don't get the guy's inner monologue on their romances in most shows anyway, so there -is- v. little direct canon source for the places fanfics go) would mean portraying an attitude and degree of emotional intelligence that I find unpalatable the way I find that guy's moronic advice on heroichomosex.org unpalatable? I mean, is it possible that 'getting it wrong' at least to -some- extent about a given male's thinking on romance stuff is all that's keeping your average fanfic reader from just... getting pissed off? The way one would get pissed at one's boyfriend being all pig-headed and ugh and male, y'know? Hahah.

( ....lalala & so on. )