... I like my cliches. oh yes.
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reenkaWah. I'm feeling horribly nostalgic for Hana Yori Dango right now. I'm just in the mood for some shoujo... something new. But really, I wish I hadn't watched HYD two years ago so I can watch it now. Every now and then, I see a story and it's -perfect- for me. I mean... not that it's a good story, even... it's just that it's one of -my- stories. It's like I recognize it having kinship to my own emotional landscape-- like I have pieces of me in these characters, or want to. And it's like... this is rather meta, but it's really emotionally vivid to me. There's definitely something all my favorite love-stories have in common.
I miss my anime obsession, I think... which is just wrong, wrong, wrong.
See, okay. There's this common thread, so much so that I can tell the story of "The Relationship" and it'd be all of their story. Spike & Buffy, Tsukasa & Tsukushi, Shion & Mokuren, Rhett & Scarlet (...okay, I'm sorry, but it fits). It's the story of Halves. Of lost, intensely passionate people who make a lot of mistakes and break each other's hearts over and over, but in the end, for them, there can only be each other or loneliness and heartache.
I seem to like it when the guy is... bull-headed, impossible to like at first, insensitive, rude, secretly deeply kind, possibly brooding but covers it up, arrogant, intelligent, smug, powerful (that is to say, has some sort of strength not usually physical), really sensitive (I guess that makes him an over-sensitive asshole), vulnerable, boyish, needy, temperamental, silly, feral, loyal, very loving but one-girl-only, and obsessive. Is both really complex and really simple. His whole personality boils down to who he loves and why and how, in the end.
The girl (or boy, #2)... hopefully...
Can give as good as she gets, is equally stubborn, able to knock him one, is able to really really frustrate him, is semi-immune to his charms, is no-nonsense where he is secretly poetic, is quite a bit more in denial about her feelings than he is. In some ways is harder-edged (tougher) than he is, in some ways softer. Has her own life, which doesn't seem to fit having him in it at -all-. Is almost nothing like him, but has his number from the start, and is in fact more like him in temperament than she knows (i.e., also pretty impulsive and passionate).
The boy is somewhat in awe of her, while she initially has disdain for him, though there's also quite a lot of sparks flying. The girl is usually a gentle person except where the boy is concerned, where she kind of completely loses it. This is contrasted by the boy being rather tough and intimidating with most people, and kind of melty around her, even if he doesn't show it at first.
The girl usually considers the boy a "lost cause", and he just keeps on trying until he breaks through her defenses with his extreme doggedness. Meanwhile, there's a lot of angst and self-doubt and close calls where their relationship finally seems to derail completely 'cause both their tempers flare out of control so wildly all the time. He's very very jealous and possessive, and she's just sick of it, though she's actually pretty jealous too, try to hide it as she might.
The whole physical aspect of things is always there and very intense (especially for the boy, who's at least admitted to his emotions to himself). But... most likely they don't quite have sex for a long while, or if they do, it only makes things worse.
They get together when they can finally see each other for who they are instead of the weird pedestals they've put each other on. He has to realize that she's not a goddess-- and that's okay-- and she has to realize that at heart, he's just a man who loves her, and admit that this is what she wants. He's always going to worship her a little and they'll always fight horribly and he's always going to get on her last nerve and vice versa-- but the vein of tenderness that was always there will grow and expand until it provides a blanket of comfort for them both.
Another thing that's true about them--
While at base, they do have a very strong bond of friendship, they could never really be "just friends". There's always going to be too much volatility between them. I want to call it "passion", but that sounds so sexual, and you could easily say that passion always goes away, and maybe it does. But the volatility that comes from the sheer force of personalities colliding-- that stays, doesn't it? So yes. They can never be quite comfortable together, always drive each other insane and their need for each other will only grow with time.
Also, they're very loyal to each other after all they've been through-- almost ridiculously loyal to the point where they sometimes shut other people out of their little circle. She trusts him above all other things by the end, and vice versa-- and even her oldest and dearest friends can't compete with the level of devotion between them, which of course causes problems. But if anyone attempts to say anything against him, no matter who they are to her-- she won't stand for it. Even as she used to be his biggest critic, now she'd do anything for him just as he would for her-- it's like their normal moral code kind of -bends- for each other in a semi-disturbing way.
She's fought becoming this bound to him tooth and nail, since she knew, somehow, that it would change her deeply and irrevocably-- but once she accepts him-- there's no separating them. There is nothing else for either of them-- and no one else. They will die as they have lived-- on their own terms, separately or together-- but their hearts will belong to each other no matter what happens to them in the future.
In the end... in the end, after a lot of trial-and-error and struggles and false starts and heartbreak, they truly achieve a marriage of spirit.
I miss my anime obsession, I think... which is just wrong, wrong, wrong.
See, okay. There's this common thread, so much so that I can tell the story of "The Relationship" and it'd be all of their story. Spike & Buffy, Tsukasa & Tsukushi, Shion & Mokuren, Rhett & Scarlet (...okay, I'm sorry, but it fits). It's the story of Halves. Of lost, intensely passionate people who make a lot of mistakes and break each other's hearts over and over, but in the end, for them, there can only be each other or loneliness and heartache.
I seem to like it when the guy is... bull-headed, impossible to like at first, insensitive, rude, secretly deeply kind, possibly brooding but covers it up, arrogant, intelligent, smug, powerful (that is to say, has some sort of strength not usually physical), really sensitive (I guess that makes him an over-sensitive asshole), vulnerable, boyish, needy, temperamental, silly, feral, loyal, very loving but one-girl-only, and obsessive. Is both really complex and really simple. His whole personality boils down to who he loves and why and how, in the end.
The girl (or boy, #2)... hopefully...
Can give as good as she gets, is equally stubborn, able to knock him one, is able to really really frustrate him, is semi-immune to his charms, is no-nonsense where he is secretly poetic, is quite a bit more in denial about her feelings than he is. In some ways is harder-edged (tougher) than he is, in some ways softer. Has her own life, which doesn't seem to fit having him in it at -all-. Is almost nothing like him, but has his number from the start, and is in fact more like him in temperament than she knows (i.e., also pretty impulsive and passionate).
The boy is somewhat in awe of her, while she initially has disdain for him, though there's also quite a lot of sparks flying. The girl is usually a gentle person except where the boy is concerned, where she kind of completely loses it. This is contrasted by the boy being rather tough and intimidating with most people, and kind of melty around her, even if he doesn't show it at first.
The girl usually considers the boy a "lost cause", and he just keeps on trying until he breaks through her defenses with his extreme doggedness. Meanwhile, there's a lot of angst and self-doubt and close calls where their relationship finally seems to derail completely 'cause both their tempers flare out of control so wildly all the time. He's very very jealous and possessive, and she's just sick of it, though she's actually pretty jealous too, try to hide it as she might.
The whole physical aspect of things is always there and very intense (especially for the boy, who's at least admitted to his emotions to himself). But... most likely they don't quite have sex for a long while, or if they do, it only makes things worse.
They get together when they can finally see each other for who they are instead of the weird pedestals they've put each other on. He has to realize that she's not a goddess-- and that's okay-- and she has to realize that at heart, he's just a man who loves her, and admit that this is what she wants. He's always going to worship her a little and they'll always fight horribly and he's always going to get on her last nerve and vice versa-- but the vein of tenderness that was always there will grow and expand until it provides a blanket of comfort for them both.
Another thing that's true about them--
While at base, they do have a very strong bond of friendship, they could never really be "just friends". There's always going to be too much volatility between them. I want to call it "passion", but that sounds so sexual, and you could easily say that passion always goes away, and maybe it does. But the volatility that comes from the sheer force of personalities colliding-- that stays, doesn't it? So yes. They can never be quite comfortable together, always drive each other insane and their need for each other will only grow with time.
Also, they're very loyal to each other after all they've been through-- almost ridiculously loyal to the point where they sometimes shut other people out of their little circle. She trusts him above all other things by the end, and vice versa-- and even her oldest and dearest friends can't compete with the level of devotion between them, which of course causes problems. But if anyone attempts to say anything against him, no matter who they are to her-- she won't stand for it. Even as she used to be his biggest critic, now she'd do anything for him just as he would for her-- it's like their normal moral code kind of -bends- for each other in a semi-disturbing way.
She's fought becoming this bound to him tooth and nail, since she knew, somehow, that it would change her deeply and irrevocably-- but once she accepts him-- there's no separating them. There is nothing else for either of them-- and no one else. They will die as they have lived-- on their own terms, separately or together-- but their hearts will belong to each other no matter what happens to them in the future.
In the end... in the end, after a lot of trial-and-error and struggles and false starts and heartbreak, they truly achieve a marriage of spirit.
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Date: 2004-02-09 12:12 am (UTC)excuse me, i'm just having an OTP reaffirmation moment.