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reenkathis h/d pic by zamber is beyond adorable. must...make...icon... of... predatory-but-blushing!harry and squeaky!malfoy, hehehee
erm. but i meant to post about something else, of course ^^;;
now where was i. oh yes. of course there's been this... meme going around-- this whole... ``you don't expect them to actually grow old together, do you??", meme, re: your favorite couple and mine, etc etc. *sigh* and yes, i guess i haven't really obsessed on what they'll be doing in 30 years or whatever. or what i'll be doing, for that matter. but anyway. it just occurred to me-- as i was watching all the guys and gals on campus. isn't it ridiculous-- miraculous-- very very strange, that males and females get along, or stay together, at all?
i mean, there's the unlikelihood of harry & draco. and then there's the unlikelihood of a gay couple lasting (and being sexual besides, according to![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
amalin's article). and then-- and then there's the utter unlikelihood of anything or anyone lasting together, isn't there? can you even believe people get along for two minutes straight, any of us? isn't it scary, how different males and females are (supposed to) be? and yet everyone assumes they'll "work out" and they just have to "work on it", whereas most couples i've ever seen, het or gay, or somewhere in between, are ridiculously mismatched and unlikely.
so show me a couple that's a "sure thing" that's bound to work out. so show me a couple that is the anti harry/draco, that goes together like short skirts and knee-highs, like dancing and rain, like bare breasts and drool. show me a couple like that, and i'll show you people who harbor lots of differences, and lots of heartache, and a healthy dose of compromise and self-denial and pain and sacrifice. so show me how people get along perfectly, how there's hard, but then there's easy, show me easy.
i've never had it easy. i've never observed anyone having it easy, and remaining honest with themselves. "they're too different, in the end". what kind of lazy thinking is that? every single person on this planet is "too different" from every other person-- and in het relationships, you have all the misunderstandings of unshared gender to deal with, on top of everything else. it's a freaking wonder anything ever works out. if it does. they're too different, and they'll fall apart, because people don't like to put effort into things, even things that are really important, that mean everything to them, because passion always goes away, and we're just here telling ourselves pretty fairytales to pass the time, but they're not really real.
they're not really real.
we all "know" that in the "real world", once the initial "ice" has been broken, there's a zillion new, more thorny issues that pop up in every human relationship. we all know there's no rest for the wicked, so to speak. everything falls apart, especially things built largely on dreams and wishes. well, face it, everything is built on a wish and a prayer. everything is on the verge of falling apart, all the time. my mind boggles trying to truly understand how things have remained so seemingly stable for so long-- i mean, yes a lot of us are dead, and most of us can't keep anything going longer than a couple of years unless we're stuck, or we're forced to-- never going uphill, never if we have to fight for it every day.
right? right?
because one day harry will wake up and realize it's not worth it, and one day draco just won't like green eyes anymore-- it happens to all of us-- and they-- they are even more fragile than the rest. or are they. are they? what does that mean, fragile? everything is fragile. your relationship with your parents, and your goldfish, and your grasp on your own sanity, and your belief in god, and your need to write, even, yes, even that could die. you pick at things and say-- that doesn't endure-- or this-- to reassure yourself, that some things do endure and some things are promised to us, when that is just a dream, just a wish we make on cold nights to warm our fingers. we may need these dreams, but we also need clear vision.
i believe in fairy tales. i believe you can make it last, and that love is love, no matter who you feel it for, no matter how hard it is-- it's all equally hard-- it all depends on how much you want it. desire is what matters. i believe. if you lost it-- you or someone else didn't want it enough. end of story, goddamnit. death comes to us all-- in time-- in time. that, no one can prevent. in fact, who says anyone can prevent anything. your breath seems dependable, but it isn't-- there are times it stops, and there are times it ends. being able to truly touch anyone makes no sense. most of the time, it doesn't happen, enough to get jaded by. most of the time.
erm. but i meant to post about something else, of course ^^;;
now where was i. oh yes. of course there's been this... meme going around-- this whole... ``you don't expect them to actually grow old together, do you??", meme, re: your favorite couple and mine, etc etc. *sigh* and yes, i guess i haven't really obsessed on what they'll be doing in 30 years or whatever. or what i'll be doing, for that matter. but anyway. it just occurred to me-- as i was watching all the guys and gals on campus. isn't it ridiculous-- miraculous-- very very strange, that males and females get along, or stay together, at all?
i mean, there's the unlikelihood of harry & draco. and then there's the unlikelihood of a gay couple lasting (and being sexual besides, according to
amalin's article). and then-- and then there's the utter unlikelihood of anything or anyone lasting together, isn't there? can you even believe people get along for two minutes straight, any of us? isn't it scary, how different males and females are (supposed to) be? and yet everyone assumes they'll "work out" and they just have to "work on it", whereas most couples i've ever seen, het or gay, or somewhere in between, are ridiculously mismatched and unlikely. so show me a couple that's a "sure thing" that's bound to work out. so show me a couple that is the anti harry/draco, that goes together like short skirts and knee-highs, like dancing and rain, like bare breasts and drool. show me a couple like that, and i'll show you people who harbor lots of differences, and lots of heartache, and a healthy dose of compromise and self-denial and pain and sacrifice. so show me how people get along perfectly, how there's hard, but then there's easy, show me easy.
i've never had it easy. i've never observed anyone having it easy, and remaining honest with themselves. "they're too different, in the end". what kind of lazy thinking is that? every single person on this planet is "too different" from every other person-- and in het relationships, you have all the misunderstandings of unshared gender to deal with, on top of everything else. it's a freaking wonder anything ever works out. if it does. they're too different, and they'll fall apart, because people don't like to put effort into things, even things that are really important, that mean everything to them, because passion always goes away, and we're just here telling ourselves pretty fairytales to pass the time, but they're not really real.
they're not really real.
we all "know" that in the "real world", once the initial "ice" has been broken, there's a zillion new, more thorny issues that pop up in every human relationship. we all know there's no rest for the wicked, so to speak. everything falls apart, especially things built largely on dreams and wishes. well, face it, everything is built on a wish and a prayer. everything is on the verge of falling apart, all the time. my mind boggles trying to truly understand how things have remained so seemingly stable for so long-- i mean, yes a lot of us are dead, and most of us can't keep anything going longer than a couple of years unless we're stuck, or we're forced to-- never going uphill, never if we have to fight for it every day.
right? right?
because one day harry will wake up and realize it's not worth it, and one day draco just won't like green eyes anymore-- it happens to all of us-- and they-- they are even more fragile than the rest. or are they. are they? what does that mean, fragile? everything is fragile. your relationship with your parents, and your goldfish, and your grasp on your own sanity, and your belief in god, and your need to write, even, yes, even that could die. you pick at things and say-- that doesn't endure-- or this-- to reassure yourself, that some things do endure and some things are promised to us, when that is just a dream, just a wish we make on cold nights to warm our fingers. we may need these dreams, but we also need clear vision.
i believe in fairy tales. i believe you can make it last, and that love is love, no matter who you feel it for, no matter how hard it is-- it's all equally hard-- it all depends on how much you want it. desire is what matters. i believe. if you lost it-- you or someone else didn't want it enough. end of story, goddamnit. death comes to us all-- in time-- in time. that, no one can prevent. in fact, who says anyone can prevent anything. your breath seems dependable, but it isn't-- there are times it stops, and there are times it ends. being able to truly touch anyone makes no sense. most of the time, it doesn't happen, enough to get jaded by. most of the time.
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Date: 2002-10-07 05:52 pm (UTC)What is there in life that's really worth having that you don't have to work for?
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Date: 2002-10-07 05:58 pm (UTC)hee
i bet everyone's like, "yeah ok, reena's having another one of those rants", heehe.
um. i thought i had a somewhat different spin on it this time, though >_<
but yeah, i know you're in "our camp" ;)