I think in my case, it's more that when people normally 'leave me', they don't tend to come back, ahahah. And also I tend to 'give up' on people rather easily, deciding they've now said all there was to say and I'm no longer of any interest (if they stop talking, that is). I'm always shocked when people come back-- like, wow, uh, it -wasn't- All About Me. And speaking of narcissism ;) (Though I'm more solipsistic than narcissistic, for most people that's prolly a too-subtle difference).
With 'declaiming' on lj-- I've heard this several times from people, and-- um, I think if I felt that way, I'd never say anything (that is, if I was fully aware of my audience, I'd get freaked out, as I'd said). I think all that allows me to post regularly is tuning people out & pretending they're not there-- not too hard, since they barely ever talk to me, what with my general average of 1-2 comments per post. ^^;; 5 comments is a let-letter day. I guess I give off this vibe, too, since people often tell me I don't seem to be 'asking' for feedback, or I've already said it all myself, or I seem like an 'article' rather than a person or what have you.
You know, I think that's what genuinely bothers me the most in how most people H/D, perhaps-- that lack of general awareness than boy, these two piss each other off for reasons that have -nothing- to do with whether Draco says 'Mudblood' or is a Death Eater and whether Harry feels insecure he's not as 'cool' as Draco. It's sort of like... they're in each other's space, or something, and there's all this intrinsic misunderstanding as to what the other wants. It's not-- really really not-- that if you took away Draco's parentage, he'd be Harry's next bestest friend.
Then again, I deeply suspect if most shippers realized this, they wouldn't ship them, maybe :>
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Date: 2006-01-18 01:46 am (UTC)With 'declaiming' on lj-- I've heard this several times from people, and-- um, I think if I felt that way, I'd never say anything (that is, if I was fully aware of my audience, I'd get freaked out, as I'd said). I think all that allows me to post regularly is tuning people out & pretending they're not there-- not too hard, since they barely ever talk to me, what with my general average of 1-2 comments per post. ^^;; 5 comments is a let-letter day. I guess I give off this vibe, too, since people often tell me I don't seem to be 'asking' for feedback, or I've already said it all myself, or I seem like an 'article' rather than a person or what have you.
You know, I think that's what genuinely bothers me the most in how most people H/D, perhaps-- that lack of general awareness than boy, these two piss each other off for reasons that have -nothing- to do with whether Draco says 'Mudblood' or is a Death Eater and whether Harry feels insecure he's not as 'cool' as Draco. It's sort of like... they're in each other's space, or something, and there's all this intrinsic misunderstanding as to what the other wants. It's not-- really really not-- that if you took away Draco's parentage, he'd be Harry's next bestest friend.
Then again, I deeply suspect if most shippers realized this, they wouldn't ship them, maybe :>