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Jun. 2nd, 2005 05:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
reenkaSo, um, in the comments to my mocking-bastard post (which I now regret, but I was being really sleepy and actually rather flippant), I said I never met anyone who'd thought I was mean, and ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
thomasofdelain (whom I don't remember seeing before) said (and then deleted), I think you're...well, not exactly mean so much as arrogant/self-centred, which can lead to the first.
Mmf. I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong or not? :-?
Well, not that you can please everyone, and it's not that I try to, but I realize I say many things without thinking them through a lot, and I probably can't change that very easily either....
He probably thought I'd jump on him or something and be like, 'how dare you! my arrogant nature demands you take that back right now!! cur! infidel!' (or something) so he deleted it, but really now I'm curious (paranoid) many more people think I'm arrogant (though clearly I am self-centered, what can I really say about that-- given I still do care about people & their opinions, I figure it's not that bad). But yeah, wouldn't want to seem arrogant-- although... if it's just 'seeming', that would be like protecting my 'image', and I don't care about that.
I suppose I wanted to ask if I'm inadvertently being arrogant? Or possibly being misunderstood that way. Is saying what I think all the time arrogant? I'm never saying 'but you can't think differently' (or rather, meaning to say). Then again, I think people have told me this much in other words, but never with the implication it could be mean.
Also, since (I'm pretty sure, and people who do know me tell me) I'm not arrogant, then isn't it bothersome if I keep seeming that way?
Okay, possibly, I shouldn't put much stock in the opinions of people who don't know me :-? But he said I could be mean! Well, we could all be unintentionally mean, I accept that. I was just saying, if anyone wanted to tell me how to improve on this front... feel free ^^ I've screened comments, I guess.
thomasofdelain (whom I don't remember seeing before) said (and then deleted), I think you're...well, not exactly mean so much as arrogant/self-centred, which can lead to the first.Mmf. I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong or not? :-?
Well, not that you can please everyone, and it's not that I try to, but I realize I say many things without thinking them through a lot, and I probably can't change that very easily either....
He probably thought I'd jump on him or something and be like, 'how dare you! my arrogant nature demands you take that back right now!! cur! infidel!' (or something) so he deleted it, but really now I'm curious (paranoid) many more people think I'm arrogant (though clearly I am self-centered, what can I really say about that-- given I still do care about people & their opinions, I figure it's not that bad). But yeah, wouldn't want to seem arrogant-- although... if it's just 'seeming', that would be like protecting my 'image', and I don't care about that.
I suppose I wanted to ask if I'm inadvertently being arrogant? Or possibly being misunderstood that way. Is saying what I think all the time arrogant? I'm never saying 'but you can't think differently' (or rather, meaning to say). Then again, I think people have told me this much in other words, but never with the implication it could be mean.
Also, since (I'm pretty sure, and people who do know me tell me) I'm not arrogant, then isn't it bothersome if I keep seeming that way?
Okay, possibly, I shouldn't put much stock in the opinions of people who don't know me :-? But he said I could be mean! Well, we could all be unintentionally mean, I accept that. I was just saying, if anyone wanted to tell me how to improve on this front... feel free ^^ I've screened comments, I guess.
