~~ a question of kink.

A part of me is like... wah. You can't make this entry, 'cause it's not interesting to anyone but you. And then, that just sounds stuffy. And, that's for moose...s. Moose? The plural of "moose".

Nevermind, I don't get it either.

So like, I was so certain I like non-con fics. I mean, I kept telling myself, but no, I like it in theory. I do. No. Really. I feel uncool if I don't. I don't know why. Just. I do.

And then it's like-- I'm so naive. I just didn't realize it, but (yes, I didn't realize how naive I was). If definition of non-con = description of sex where either of parties is having no fun whatsoever and is in fact being psychologically scarred.... Er. No. And then it hit me: that is (something like) the definition of. Well. Rape. Duh. (Cue lightbulb!)

If definition of non-con = description of sex where one party starts off having no fun and then is persuaded to by the sheer horny greatness of the other party, then..... Yes. I find it hot. On the other hand, that's not non-con, strangely enough.

Now it occurs to me that the definition of non-con (i.e., rape) has been often debated in court, too, hasn't it. People have said, "well, I did orgasm and enjoy myself and yell YESYESTAKEMENOW but I DIDN'T WANT TO thus it was rape". So maybe that's why semi-con stories get labelled non-con (then again, one very rarely labels stories "includes consent issues" or "questionably rape" because either the writer thinks they're writing "that non-con kink thing" or not, apparently).

I've been confused about the definitions because I -thought- I said I enjoyed (some) non-con (then again, I only enjoy "some" with everything) for a reason. There is this one non-con fic that I absolutely -adore- and think is just unbearably hot and it's made me believe in non-conness forever. It's just. Brilliant. Brilliantly Hot. Beautiful. Gorgeous. YES. It's... not an HP fic, actually. It's `Shades of Gray', a Methos/Kronos/Cassandra & D/M Highlander fic by Mairead Triste. This fic is so hot it got me into the fandom, got me to read a bunch of other Highlander fics by a bunch of other authors; it was the other thing besides the (really hot!) Highlander vids that really hooked me but good. So you can see why I thought I had a reason for saying I like non-con (and this fic is -really- violent and -really- all-out forced-sex all over... sort of).

But. Then again, I keep... not liking the non-con in the HP fandom. I keep thinking... okay, I'm just waiting for the right one. But no. My own non-con fics didn't work for me on a sexeh level. Sara's `Control' doesn't work for me (though it's not really non-con but it approaches these issues anyway), Shalott's `Weather of the Heart' series doesn't work for me, Amanuensis's `And Just Plain Wrong'... ditto. So. Weird, huh. Then I realized that even though on the surface, `Shades of Gray' is non-con as non-con can be... it's... different. It's special. It's got... passion. It convinces me (!! eureka!!). Most non-con just counts on "well, it's your kink too" and doesn't bother to set up the characters as to -why- they're into this against their will (if they are! but that's the most common scenario). Very very rarely does non-con work to set up the situation to be sexy. Of course, rarely does any fic work for its own scenario. Damn, I have to refrain from saying most things suck now. Because uh. That's not nice.

I just realized that there's a world of difference between the "sort" of rape you have when you have... I dunno... aphrodisiacs, heavy-handed seduction, severe aggressiveness, dominance/submission-- and just plain treating someone as an object to use and abuse and discard with nothing to make it a "crime of passion" (the `passion' being the operative word here rather than the `crime').

( And now for the definitions.... )

Irresistibility is really a classic trope of romance plots through the ages. I mean, if you really broke it down, there's a lot of semi-con and non-con elements in 18th and 19th century (and older, naturally... take Zeus and his conquests) romance ideals. The huge manly man "takes" the fainting delicate woman across his heavily muscled (manly) shoulder and carries her off to be... er... plundered :D :D

( . . .Cue really bad het-smut snippet! Hee! )

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EDIT - omg, I adore nacey's art! Wah! And she draws (really sweet) Harry/Hermione! This is so... wrong! And yet! So pretty (especially this last one, with Harry&Hermione&Draco in it. Ack.)! And naturally, she's a professional fantasy artist. Duh. Who draws fairies! And Delirium..!..!..!!1 And eeeeeeee, two Lunas!!1 >:O