Oh, well I would agree with that. I think we're just using the term "victim" differently--and probably I'm using it the same way Reena is, but we're really all agreeing. I mean, I certainly saw myself as the one wronged in the situation, and saw them as doing something not right to me. But when I say I didn't identify myself as a victim it was more...maybe this is an American thing. Calling yourself a victim goes beyond just properly identifying what's going on in the situation. Identifying yourself as the victim, at least here, carries the suggestion that you exist to be picked on, because that is what a victim is. You're a victim, and therefore you are victimized. Saying you're not the victim is sort of like saying, "I do not except the bully's definition of me. He may victimize me, but I am not his victim."
So I didn't think of myself as "a victim" in school, but yes if somebody was picking on me I would know I was the victim the way you're describing it. It's like just a more roundabout way of saying what I think you're saying here, of saying that what the other person is doing isn't right.
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Date: 2004-08-23 10:21 am (UTC)So I didn't think of myself as "a victim" in school, but yes if somebody was picking on me I would know I was the victim the way you're describing it. It's like just a more roundabout way of saying what I think you're saying here, of saying that what the other person is doing isn't right.