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May. 15th, 2004 08:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
reenkaOne thing that bothers me about slash (vs. het) is that it's now okay for one character to be "The Dom". I mean, you know how everyone talks about how modern and progressive slash writers' ideas of gender roles are or whatever, and then you go back to the idea of "subs" and "doms" and suddenly it's perfectly fine because we can slap the "same-sex = equality" label on them.
I was looking (briefly) at Dragonheart, which is really a bad movie but it had this fiesty heroine (with red hair, of course) and a talking (feisty) dragon and a bearded (feisty) hero. Basically, in this movie, I think if you were Good, you were Feisty, and if you were... uh... Sadly Challenged(!) you were... Pushy and Pathetic (aka the pale prince/loser-type-person-- whom I actually wanted to get the girl 'cause DUDE, you -know- he's like, never had it so good-- and he never will!)
Anyway. It's insulting for men to be feisty, right? Only women can be feisty 'cause they have that assumption of weakness to start with. Or maybe the sub can be feisty and talk back, so that the dom can like... enjoy their eventual control better. I dunno. It disturbs me, if anything 'cause I like everyone to lose control all over the place. Control is bad in romance, isn't it? It means your heart has still got armor on it. So like, in sex, if you're in control, are you really into it whole-heartedly?
So here I am, projecting my desires (as a feisty-like woman) onto the boys, who are probably grumbling at me for wanting to foist the women's lib movement onto them. But what I'm really curious about is how it works in those het romances-- with the feisty heroines. What happens in bed? Like... is Han&Leia's dynamic viable, especially if Leia was male? Does Leia (the feisty-girl archetype) "get away" with stuff 'cause Han feels like humoring or protecting her? Is their equality an illusion?
Do they whip their boys or do they spread their legs enthusiastically and top from the bottom? You know they do. The top is really the bottom, y'know, that is the secret. Whoever's in control is the one being controlled by their own need to feel it, whereas whoever lets go is... not controlled by anything. *zen*
The problem with people being "equal", of course, is that human nature doesn't necessarily lend itself to it-- some don't want to be and some aren't allowed to be and some can't be. It's an ideal, not a reality, right. So people exacerbate it, make an aesthetic of it, court it. Perhaps a truer thing would be to be oneself regardless of others, but even that is probably too much to ask of most people. *sigh* There's a reason I like the strong-willed heroic types. With each other. Yeah, watch me imagine a master caste of imperious self-centered megalomaniacs~:) Any second, I'll turn into Robert Heinlein, ahahahah!! (um.)
And Empress' `Inside' makes me believe in nasty!Draco liking Harry just when I thought it couldn't happen.
I was looking (briefly) at Dragonheart, which is really a bad movie but it had this fiesty heroine (with red hair, of course) and a talking (feisty) dragon and a bearded (feisty) hero. Basically, in this movie, I think if you were Good, you were Feisty, and if you were... uh... Sadly Challenged(!) you were... Pushy and Pathetic (aka the pale prince/loser-type-person-- whom I actually wanted to get the girl 'cause DUDE, you -know- he's like, never had it so good-- and he never will!)
Anyway. It's insulting for men to be feisty, right? Only women can be feisty 'cause they have that assumption of weakness to start with. Or maybe the sub can be feisty and talk back, so that the dom can like... enjoy their eventual control better. I dunno. It disturbs me, if anything 'cause I like everyone to lose control all over the place. Control is bad in romance, isn't it? It means your heart has still got armor on it. So like, in sex, if you're in control, are you really into it whole-heartedly?
So here I am, projecting my desires (as a feisty-like woman) onto the boys, who are probably grumbling at me for wanting to foist the women's lib movement onto them. But what I'm really curious about is how it works in those het romances-- with the feisty heroines. What happens in bed? Like... is Han&Leia's dynamic viable, especially if Leia was male? Does Leia (the feisty-girl archetype) "get away" with stuff 'cause Han feels like humoring or protecting her? Is their equality an illusion?
Do they whip their boys or do they spread their legs enthusiastically and top from the bottom? You know they do. The top is really the bottom, y'know, that is the secret. Whoever's in control is the one being controlled by their own need to feel it, whereas whoever lets go is... not controlled by anything. *zen*
The problem with people being "equal", of course, is that human nature doesn't necessarily lend itself to it-- some don't want to be and some aren't allowed to be and some can't be. It's an ideal, not a reality, right. So people exacerbate it, make an aesthetic of it, court it. Perhaps a truer thing would be to be oneself regardless of others, but even that is probably too much to ask of most people. *sigh* There's a reason I like the strong-willed heroic types. With each other. Yeah, watch me imagine a master caste of imperious self-centered megalomaniacs~:) Any second, I'll turn into Robert Heinlein, ahahahah!! (um.)
And Empress' `Inside' makes me believe in nasty!Draco liking Harry just when I thought it couldn't happen.
