i totally see what you're saying, about needing something he doesn't have. hmmm. yes, yes, i see the pattern. like an immune deficiency-- you get a craving, then, and you can't stop it but it doesn't (necessarily) stop -you-.
Yeah, I think the subconscious is responsible for a lot of this. Of course, there's evolution too. And that's a whole nother kettle of worms.
the craving to incorporate the object of one's desire into one's own self
Very interesting! I think that this kind of desire can never be satisfied -- certainly not in the long term. It wants to break down boundaries that can't be broken down. Because we can't completely possess each other.
Though if we could -- how scary. What you say about it eating away at one's sense of self -- that's the danger, I think. That the desire will consume you.
Which is different from love, I think. Love is more about respecting the boundaries and maybe growing together so that the boundaries are less.
Ron and Hermione -- there were signs, yes, and I was pleased to see them. I don't know what I wanted, though. For Harry to see a bit of how Ron feels, maybe?
I think from a narrative point of view, Hr & R can't get together yet -- it would completely unbalance the H-R-Hr relationship.
Really, though, I'm just so in love with ickle Ronniekins that I want him to be happy. *g*
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Date: 2003-07-01 07:01 pm (UTC)Yeah, I think the subconscious is responsible for a lot of this. Of course, there's evolution too. And that's a whole nother kettle of worms.
the craving to incorporate the object of one's desire into one's own self
Very interesting! I think that this kind of desire can never be satisfied -- certainly not in the long term. It wants to break down boundaries that can't be broken down. Because we can't completely possess each other.
Though if we could -- how scary. What you say about it eating away at one's sense of self -- that's the danger, I think. That the desire will consume you.
Which is different from love, I think. Love is more about respecting the boundaries and maybe growing together so that the boundaries are less.
Ron and Hermione -- there were signs, yes, and I was pleased to see them. I don't know what I wanted, though. For Harry to see a bit of how Ron feels, maybe?
I think from a narrative point of view, Hr & R can't get together yet -- it would completely unbalance the H-R-Hr relationship.
Really, though, I'm just so in love with ickle Ronniekins that I want him to be happy. *g*